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August 20, 2018

Menopause – My personal experience

Menopause read my personal experience

Menopause – the dreaded M word! Or at least it is when you’re in the throws of it! However, it has to be said it’s refreshing that the menopause is now talked about and discussed these days – in my mothers time it was a totally taboo topic! Spoken about only in whispers as ‘The Change’

I’m going to talk about and share my worst symptoms with you. If you’re younger and not yet there don’t feel the menopause is not a subject you need to know about. I’m discussing these symptoms in the hope that you may recognise the suffering or changes in an older female relative, friend or colleague and develop an understanding of where they’re at!

Hot Flushes

This is the symptom that is most commonly recognised. I was always a cold person, needing the heating on in winter months before my husband did. Wearing thick jumpers and roll necks. My first symptoms came on gradually, I found I didn’t feel as cold and generally felt warmer all the time. Then the dreaded flushes struck. Moments when my body would go into total surge and a feeling that my body would explode with molten lava flowing through my veins. Sounds dramatic I know but it’s so true. Working as a nurse in a Neonatal Intensive Care Unit where the temperature was kept around 21oC, this was a challenge, particularly when I had to gown up to perform an aseptic procedure. Sweat would quite literally trickle down my back. If that wasn’t bad enough the night flushes are even worse. Waking up with my heart pounding accompanied by a feeling of panic and that overwhelming heat. I get a really strange feeling in my calves – the heat seems to emanate from the back of my legs – so bizarre. The bed clothes are flung off and my lags wafted around in the air in an attempt to cool them down. Thankfully they don’t disturb my husband too much, he’s grown used to this behaviour! A purchase of a large pedestal fan prior to the hottest part of this summers heatwave has been my saviour. After describing the effects in that last paragraph I’m sure you can see that it also impacts on my quality of sleep.  As for clothing I rarely feel cold and when I do I layer up so that I can remove layers when my flushes rear their ugly head! As for thick jumpers, they are a thing of the past. I have to search to find a jumper that provides heat with ventilation, similar to this! Just the sight of a woman in a high roll neck sweater brings on a hot sweat. I hate to feel wrapped up around the neck and throat. The only time I wear something thick is on the coldest winter days when I go to watch my beloved Manchester City play.

Menopause weight gain around the middle

The hormonal changes of menopause might make you more likely to gain weight around your abdomen than around your hips and thighs. Well I can confirm that this is certainly the case with me! I’m only 4′ 10″ tall and have turned into a stumpy little apple! I reminisce about the days when I could wear a size 6, proving I haven’t always been overweight. Having always loved clothes and fashion its now difficult to find styles and clothes that look flattering. I’m not someone who wishes to wear snug fitting clothes that cling to ripples of tummy rolls. I hate it. I try to be careful and often when shopping for something specific will have to try on around 30 dresses to find 1 suitable. The way I wish to dress is not the way I have to. Opting for loose tents rather than the lovely figure hugging dresses I would love to wear. I don’t feel I over eat, I really limit treats to  once a week, no McDonalds, cream cakes or fish and chip takeaways for me. Exercise and staying active is important to me but as I’m now retired and work from home mostly as a part time ebay reseller and now blogger I don’t burn the calories I did when I was a Neonatal Nurse on my feet for up to 13 hours per shift. But I don’t sit on my butt all day watching TV either. I do keep active moving around the house and now go to the gym 3-4 times a week. I find it so difficult to lose weight, a constant struggle, read my post on how I hate my shape

Menopause - dressing to disguise the fat around my middle

Anxiety

As an adult I’ve always been a positive happy go lucky upbeat person. Always cheery with a humorous quip to make people laugh in all situations. The menopause has brought on levels of anxiety that were previously unknown to me. As a Nurse you see distress and stressful situations all the time and are able to cope with more than your peers. In contrast, since I’ve been going through the menopause I suffer anxiety much more than before. I have always had a fear of flying and require medication when travelling on holiday, now I have anxiety even travelling in the car or visiting new places. I see danger everywhere. That does not mean I have stopped travelling or trying new experiences, I just have to plan a little bit more and I have taken to using Kalms tablets when needed. I have not yet gone down the road of having to visit my Doctor for HRT or other medication. On the whole I manage using my own strategies and I avoid watching in depth news coverage of distressing events. This does not mean I do not keep up with the news and World events I just scan the basic headlines – I’ve become a bit of an Ostrich!

Thinning Hair

Hair loss tends to be subtler in women than it is in men. Most women experience overall hair thinning rather than noticeable bald spots. The thinning can occur on the front, sides, or top of the head. Hair may also fall out in large clumps during brushing and showering. I have always had fine hair but lots of it. With the changes I’ve experienced during the menopause my hair has really thinned out and become even more fine and difficult to style. My wonderful hairdresser reassures me that it is normal for women of my age and that she does not think that my degree of hair loss is a great concern. However that does still mean that she has had to adapt my colour and styling to accommodate these changes. I’m now blond to cover my ever increasing grey hair and I have to adopt a simple bob. I used to be able to have volume and tease into shape using mousse and gels. Recently despite battling with styles it just falls and flops into a soft bob, so rather than continue to tease and use a lot of heat styling products I have conceded and gone with a style that nature is telling me I should wear.

Menopause the effects causing thinning hair

Menopause brain Fog

Brain fog is the one symptom of the menopause that really influenced my decision to take early retirement. I was working in a very senior clinical role as an Advanced Neonatal Nurse Practitioner and needed to be at the top of my game.  I was struggling with concentration and memory issues. This was quite worrying initially until I realised that these were symptoms of the menopause rather than anything else. There are times when this brain fog means you have to stop mid sentence to try and remember the next word you want to say. Remembering names and details were becoming more difficult, particularly when under pressure. My brain appeared to be in overload. Particularly as I had always been commended for my memory for detail. Younger colleagues I knew were looking at me and thinking – how the hell did she get this job! This is becoming something taken seriously in other professions particularly the Police Force who are having to consider strategies to support female officers, particularly as Pension changes mean they have to work longer through this very difficult time of their careers. I for one welcome these measures, if I did not have the ability to retire at 55 I would be struggling to continue, perhaps even having to resort to sick leave to take time out due to stress.

Now that I’ve told you these issues I appreciate they all sound negative and do not reflect this time of life in a positive light. It is worth addressing these issues as a woman today now spends approximately one third of their life menopausal. I want to end by saying that life is not all bad, in fact this third age of my life is possibly the best era of my life in many ways. I am now out of the daily slog of full time work, I’m in control of what I do with my time. My confidence levels are high, I know who I am and what I want from life. The menopause is an irritation to be dealt with but hey it’s not spoiling my retirement party!

So if you are reading this and are suffering like me let me know by email or commenting how you cope. Consequently, if you know a female relative, friend or colleague who is struggling I hope my words can help you relate to their struggles and have sympathy.

Thanks for reading

 

Elaine x

 

 

 

 

 

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  1. Ruth says

    August 22, 2018 at 6:08 pm

    OMG, I am 41 and fairly sure I am what they call perimenaupasal which is actually experiencing all the menopause symptoms and the beginnings of it. When I read more on it recently, I discovered the menopause is the term to describe someone who has stopped menstruating. I have started having irregular cycles now and sex drive has definitely decreased! I also had what I think was a hot flush back in November ( ha only the one for now) bit I just couldn’t cool down. I might write a post about it myself. Great to read someone’s experiences. Oh and go find styled by Susie on Facebook she does styling services for body shapes and colours and is a-m-azing!

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    • earlyretirementrocks says

      August 22, 2018 at 5:23 pm

      Yes I remember the peri menopause well too! But hey we get there don’t we and hopefully can laugh about it! I actually follow Suzy Styles. A fellow northerners. I appreciate your comment and you sound like you’re a little more prepared than I am.

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  2. Jo says

    August 23, 2018 at 11:35 am

    Hi Elaine, I’ve recently written a piece about the menopause on isitwarminhere.com my other blog. I’m 53 and suffering a lot of the same symptoms. I can cope with the hot flushes, brain fog, lack of sex drive but the weight gain really upsets me. It’s really hard to shift too. The joys of womanhood. I’ll follow your social media. We need to stick together us warm ladies.

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    • earlyretirementrocks says

      August 23, 2018 at 10:46 am

      Oh Wow! A fellow menopausal blogger – I love your name. I will take a look. Girls with flushes power! 🤣🤣🤣

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  3. Sarah Pilling says

    August 23, 2018 at 3:22 pm

    My mum, MIL and auntie are all going through this at the moment – we’ve nicknamed the hot flushes ‘tropical moments’ to try and giggle a little, but the brain fog is definitely the biggest issue they’ve experienced!

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    • earlyretirementrocks says

      August 27, 2018 at 6:08 pm

      Yes Sarah the brain fog is the killer for me but I do manage to giggle myself at my own ‘tropical moments!’

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  4. Emma says

    August 23, 2018 at 7:17 pm

    Thanks for sharing.

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  5. Creative Nails says

    August 23, 2018 at 7:49 pm

    I am only in my 20’s at the moment so I haven’t experienced this yet but it was really interesting to read and learn more about what symptoms I could experience in the future when it’s my turn! Thanks for sharing 🙂

    Amy,
    https://creativenails.uk

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    • earlyretirementrocks says

      August 24, 2018 at 3:21 pm

      Hopefully it will be a while before you experience any of these 😀

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  6. Sophie Wentworth says

    August 23, 2018 at 10:03 pm

    My mum had just about all of these symptoms. It was awful, I was freezing for nearly three years! Our thermostat was rarely allowed to go over 14 degrees when her flushes were at their worst. She was around 40 when hers started. Can’t say I’m particularly looking forward to it…

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

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    • earlyretirementrocks says

      August 24, 2018 at 3:22 pm

      Ha ha thankfully My husband is used to work8ng outside in bad weather so is always hot indoors. Any temperature conflicts are avoided 😀

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  7. MissPond says

    August 24, 2018 at 7:47 am

    It’s great you’ve shared your experiences, hopefully it’ll help others who are maybe struggling.

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    • earlyretirementrocks says

      August 24, 2018 at 3:23 pm

      Thank you I hope the notes on Brain fog help others realise that they are not losing their mind 😀

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  8. Karen says

    September 18, 2018 at 5:57 pm

    Hi Elaine – I can so relate to all of those symptoms! I had a total hysterectomy at 47 so went straight into menopause. The thing that really got to me the most was problems with sex – the dryness just caused me so much pain I used to dread it. I was also getting very depressed, just bursting into tears for no reason at all. Eventually, after 5 years of struggling. I gave in and went to the doctors. She talked to me about HRT – no-one had really talked to me about it before. I decided that I’d give it a go and I’m so pleased I did. My symptoms improved 100% within about a week. I wish I’d been given HRT at the beginning.

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    • earlyretirementrocks says

      October 7, 2018 at 1:09 pm

      Thanks for your comment and advice. I’m managing so far without HRT but if I really get desperate I will be knocking on my GP’s door. My motto is that there are no medals for bravery where this is concerened!

      Reply

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